Reflections

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“When you look at yourself do you like what you see?
If you like what you see you’re the person you should be
Cause your reflection reflects in everything you do
And everything you do reflects on you.

When you wake up each day do you like how you feel?
If you like how you feel you’ve got nothing to conceal
Cause your reflection reflects in everything you do
And everything you do reflects on you.

When you lay down to sleep do you like all your dreams?
If you like all your dreams life’s as happy as it seems
Cause your reflection reflects in everything you do
And everything you do reflects on you.”

Sounds like a kids song, but the lyrics are from the 1973 musical version of “The Lost Horizon.” And, simple as they are, they ring true!

Burt Bacharach wrote the music; Hal David wrote the lyrics. The movie was a major box office and critical flop, but the words stuck in my head when I was flipping through channels early this morning . . . “Cause your reflection reflects in everything you do, And everything you do reflects on you”!

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Lucky is, as lucky does . . .

Since there is lots of talk about “luck” this time of year, I thought I would repost this Wishful Thinking Works article I wrote in June, 2014. Enjoy!

“Several years ago, the psychologist Richard Wiseman recruited subjects who thought of themselves as either unusually lucky or unlucky.

  • The self-described lucky ones, he discovered, shared a set of behavioral traits that maximized their good fortune.
    • They were receptive to new experiences, and
    • invested time in expanding their social and professional networks;
    • when things went wrong, they reminded themselves that things could have gone worse.
  • By focusing less on their goals, they actually accomplished those goals more efficiently.

In one experiment, Wiseman asked participants to count the number of photographs in a newspaper.

  • The unlucky people diligently plodded through.
  • The lucky ones were far more likely to spot one of two messages Wiseman had inserted on the page.
    • The first [message] read ‘Stop counting—there are 43 photographs in this newspaper.’
    • The other offered a $250 reward if the reader just asked the experimenter for the cash.”

So, it appears that being lucky requires a belief that you are lucky, and the behavior to go with it!

Your luck is already improving; now that you read the story and know the secret, you can change your life accordingly!

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Capture happy!

Capture  Happy Patrice Koerper Wishful Thinking Works

Today is International Day of Happiness!

Take some time to capture happy and enrich your life in the process.

Positive thoughts and feelings are like hi-test fuel for your brain.

Capturing – labeling, wallowing, and replaying – positive thoughts and feelings will spark the release of even more positive-producing hormones, chemicals, and connecting agents in your brain.

It’s science, not hocus-pocus or feel good mumbo-jumbo.

Positive thoughts and emotions light-up our brains in all the right places, giving us the fuel we need to move forward in a positive direction.

The next time you are feeling particularly perky and positive, warm and fuzzy, or cozy and comfy – capture the moment.

1. Label it.

“Hey, this feels good.”  “I feel great.”  “I like this.”  “I’m happy!” “This feels wonderful.”

2. Wallow in it.

Take time to let the feeling soak into your entire body, let it flow throughout your body.

3. Replay it.

Hours, days and weeks later, take a moment to relive an earlier moment that have made you happy. If you took Step 2 seriously, you will be able to bring back the same feelings you had when the moment occurred with almost the same intensity. A totally sweet deal – that is available to you for free, 24/7!

The goal is to capture yourself feeling good and give equal time and effort to imprinting those memories. You will build-up a reservoir of good feelings to relive, which will eventually spill over onto your attitude and outlook. And, with time and you will catch yourself feeling happier and happier.

You can choose what you record and replay. What better way to celebrate International Happy Day then by capturing happy?

PS I know you can do this, because we do it all the time with negative thoughts. We rehash and relive each and every second of our drama/trauma moments – blow-by-blow, insult and injury. You see, those moments were highly charged, we allowed them to make an impression and they are easier to remember, but with practice you can do the same thing with everyday positive moments and memories, and then use them to recharge yourself. (This post has been revamped from a 2012 Wishful Thinking Works post)

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Irish words

luckyHappy St. Patrick’s Day!

For many year’s I have been saying the first line of this Irish blessing to myself when trying something new or doing something I find a bit scary.  I do not know why it makes me feel so good, but it always does.  Perhaps it is because when I picture the road rising to meet my footsteps I am reminded that if I let go, chances are things will fall gently into place.

The last line evokes such a feeling of warmth and safety, not so much for the reference to God, but for being held in the hollow of one’s hand. Mmm, that is just so nice.

This is my wish for you:

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
May the rains fall soft upon your fields,
And, until we meet again,
May God hold you in the hollow of His hand.

Have a wonderful day!

Dialing down your fear meter – redux

Something to think about . . . from Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now . . .

“The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger.”

Hmm. “The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger.”  How many times are we in real life or death or seriously scary situations and how many times do we create (exaggerate) them in our minds?

“It [fear] comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now.” The Power of Now

When you catch yourself raising your fear meter by imagining negative or disastrous outcomes . . .

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Note that the situation you are thinking of is scary to you – “Wow, I’m more worried about this than I realized.” (Be honest with yourself; keying in and admitting you are afraid can quickly reduce the stress you are feeling by interrupting your negative thought process.)
  3. Take another deep breath.
  4. Do something physical to switch gears. Move! Get up. Stretch. Rollover. Sit up. Walk away. Turn around or shimmy, shake, hop, skip or jump yourself away from your fear. :-) (Making yourself smile never hurts.)
  5. Repeat as necessary, and don’t be discouraged if you have to repeat these steps often, because that means you are serious about change!

MH900387812Later when you aren’t worrying about the topic, you can review the situation by brainstorming your options, assessing your strengthsrecalling pass successes dealing with tough situations – and why they worked, predicting a positive outcome (Try it; it can work wonders.), and then you can decide how, or if,  you need to deal with the situation.

But for now, learning to interrupt your thought cycle is all you need to do to dial down your fear meter and gain some peace of mind!

Let me know if this works for you! It always makes me feel better – if I remember to do it!

PS This post is updated from its original posting on Wishful Thinking Works in 2013.

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