Endings matter

Researchers have found that we have a tendency to assess life events, our lives and the lives of others primarily by how they end. This tendency or bias may even outweigh how we remember or value the peak moments of events or lives no matter how impressive or grand the peaks were. Being president, a famous celebrity, bestselling author, a billionaire or an Olympic athlete, may not be the most important memory people will have of you . . .

If a movie or a book ends well – in a way we feel is exciting or rewarding – we have a tendency to ignore or excuse any earlier plot failings it may have. Phrases such as “Leave them laughing.” and “All’s well that end well.” reflect these human tendencies.

door-672999__180So why am I telling you all this? Because it means it is never too late for a happy or truly satisfying ending to your education, your career, your marriage, your family relations, your life, your anything! Since we and the folks around us have the tendency to value the ending more than what happens along the way there is still and always hope.

What have you wanted to do, but haven’t done? It is not too late.

What have you wanted to see, but never saw? It is not too late.

Where have you wanted to go, but haven’t been? It is not too late.

What have you wanted to say, but never did? It is not too late.

What values have you wanted to live by, but aren’t? It is not too late.

What have you hoped to feel, but haven’t felt? It is not too late.

What have you wanted to stop doing, but haven’t had the courage? It is not too late.

Who have you wanted to hug, but haven’t? It is not too late.

Who have you wanted to forgive, but have not? It is not too late.

Your ending is not yet written. Life truly is a marathon, not a sprint. There is time.

Start today. I know you can do it. The life you really want is waiting for you!

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1 spot open in the Autumn Joy Club


No commissions – I just really love the book!

Wishful Thinking Works came about in part because of a book I would like to share with you this fall – Martha Beck’s “The Joy Diet”.

Martha is a well-known author and life coach, who has been featured on Oprah’s shows and in Oprah magazine for more than a decade. She has a simple, no nonsense approach to change, which she outlines in “The Joy Diet”.  I first opened her book in 2003, and have read it many times since then. It truly helped me create the life I really wanted. I believe it can do the same for you.

I have put together “The Autumn Joy Club” to work with 10 folks who truly want to bring more joy into their lives.

We will be meeting via free telephone conference Thursday nights at 7 p.m. for 1 hour and fifteen minutes each week beginning September 15 and ending October 13.

• This free, action-oriented club is limited to a total of 10 members, so only sign-up, if you truly want change in your life and you are ready for action!  (There is only 1 space reserved for Wishful Thinking Works blog readers  – so sign-up today!) 

 The club requires commitment and dedication – you will not only be reading the first five chapters of “The Joy Diet”, you will be integrating the steps into your life.  It’s hard work, but the kind that when you are done you feel proud of yourself and better for it.

• The key is working the steps, without action change won’t take place.

Are you game? Would you like to bring more joy into your life? Does change scare you? Good then you are the perfect candidate for our Wishful Thinking Works Autumn Joy Club!

Beck’s approach is fun and simple. The hardest step for me was #1, but that is also the step that had the biggest impact on my life, and led me on a journey inside myself and around the world.

There will be times that you will feel like you are on a roller coaster and want to get off, but the joy, courage and confidence you’ll get from sticking with it are well worth the ride! I know, because I have ridden the very same coaster, and it changed my life!

Martha shares her clear-cut steps and tells you how to combine them for the biggest impact, and then she kicks you out of the nest, trusting you will figure it all out – and you will as a member of the Wishful Thinking Works Autumn Joy Club. I will be there to offer tips, insights, and encouragement and you will learn from each other as you go.

So if you are serious about creating more joy in your life and ready to make the commitment that takes – join away. 

  • To join, please send me an email at wishfulthinkingworks@gmail.com with a few sentences about yourself and why you would like to be part of our group. I will notify you via email to confirm you are in.
  • We will be using freeconferencecall.com – there may be a charge for international callers, please review their web site if you will be calling from outside the United States.
  • Please do not sign-up, if your are not committed to reading a chapter a week and integrating change into your life. I takes time, and you need to be ready to change.

Once you receive confirmation that you are in, please purchase the book in the format you prefer, you can get it online at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc.  Read the preface and Chapter 1 before we get started on September 15! (Told you the group is action oriented!) Before we begin, you will receive an outline explaining what we will be covering each week and details on how to connect to our free conference call.

The rest is up to you, go for the joy!

Warm regards,


PS I am so excited that I will be attending a Martha Beck workshop in September – can’t wait! I will have lots of new info to share.

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It’s summer, take a nap!

cat napping-1551783__180It’s summer, cut yourself some slack and take a nap. It may be the right time to turn the lights down low, and let yourself go. The National Sleep Foundation thinks so:

“A short nap is usually recommended (20-30 minutes) for short-term alertness. This type of nap provides significant benefit for improved alertness and performance without leaving you feeling groggy or interfering with nighttime sleep….

Naps can restore alertness, enhance performance, and reduce mistakes and accidents. A study at NASA on sleepy military pilots and astronauts found that a 40-minute nap improved performance by 34% and alertness 100%….

Sleep experts also recommend that if you feel drowsy when driving, you should immediately pull over to a rest area, drink a caffeinated beverage and take a 20-minute nap.” (The caffeine kicks in after 20 minutes so it can help wake you up!)

Even though, the  experts are still weighing in on how long the perfect nap should be, they tend to agree the best time is in the afternoon, between 1 and 4 PM.


I believe one of the key benefits of a nap is the fact that we admit we need or want one and are willing to give ourselves a break. It’s a refreshing form of self-care and a great way to lessen the stress we put on ourselves. And, summer is a great time to discover the nap length and location that is best for you – an hour nap in the sun might be perfect on the weekend while a ten minute snooze at your desk may be just the thing you need on a weekday.

It’s free, it’s fun and you may awaken with a new outlook, increased energy and creativity and be more alert and ready to deal with the details of the day.

To learn more about the art and science of napping click here, here,  here and here.


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