Two ways to live your life

The Parable of the Arrow

arrow-1557462_960_720A man was walking through a forest, when suddenly seemingly out of nowhere, an arrow pierced his thigh.  He felt a sharp pain.  Then, immediately following he felt anger. The thought quickly came. Where did the arrow come from?  Who shot it?  I’m going to find him.  He must be punished.  He finally pulled the arrow out of his leg. Gradually the physical pain went away and the wound healed.  His anger continued for days.  His thoughts of anger and frustration reoccurred for the rest of his life.

Another man was walking through a forest. When seemingly out of nowhere, an arrow pierced his thigh.  He felt a sharp pain. He took out the arrow and continued walking. The wound healed.

Adaptation from a Buddhist Teaching

How do you want to live?  The choice is always yours.

Choose wisely.

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Peacocks and happiness

Good Monday Morning!

Did you know that studies show that watching a nature video or film can increase your happiness, and expand positive emotions such as awe and amusement?

To get your morning off to a great start, I am sharing this beautiful 25 second video of my high school and FB friend’s majestic peacocks. Take a moment to watch and I guarantee you will feel a difference. (You can add a few deep breaths to enrich the impact.)

Being in nature is an even better easy, care-free way to elevate your mood and create joyful feelings. As the earth begins to thaw in the northern climates and the heat rises in southern ones, it is a great time to venture outdoors to see what Mother Nature is up to.

Don’t miss the chance this spring and summer to experience this free pick-me-up. And, do share photos of your natural memorable moments – we will all benefit from your discoveries just by viewing them.

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Are you on Ego-matic pilot?

ego (2)At our Wishful Thinking Women gathering this weekend we were talking about “taming” our egos. Because of ego influence, I think many folks believe that change is often too hard to even attempt. We believe that we must live according to the whims of our egos and this ego-inspired belief is what keeps us stuck in a permanent state of ego-matic pilot making change seem difficult or overwhelming.

In a state of ego-matic pilot, we throw away or delay the possibility of love, our dreams, losing weight, going to college, getting a better job, being the kind of Mom, Dad, wife, husband, friend or colleague we want to be and so much more. We think it is all too hard for us to attain, or maybe worse, that we don’t deserve the fulfillment or happiness those changes may bring.  In ego-matic mode we create explanations and excuses to support our negative perspectives and then use them as justification for our personal pity parties or our failed prospects and attempts.

I don’t believe we need to tame our egos, they are just another part of us, but I do believe we can calm them and neutralize their perceptual stranglehold on our actions and emotions through awareness, acceptance and fulfillment.

Here is my Wishful Thinking Works plan for releasing yourself from ego-matic pilot:

  1. The first step is belief in the possibility that living a happy, fulfilled life is easier than we think. (Just like Dorothy discovered in the “Wizard of Oz”, perhaps you have always had the power!)
  2. The second step is an openness to new options and opinions. (Don’t be afraid to change, an evolutionary outlook and approach to life is not only energizing it can be deeply rewarding.)
  3. The third is awareness in the moment and of the world around us. (Time spent noticing our thoughts or paying attention to the beauty around us, rather than listening to the never-ending ego appraisal going on in our minds, is always time well spent.)

EX: The next time you start beating-up on yourself for eating too much or too little; saying too much or too little; doing too much or too little, etc., etc.  – STOP, take a deep breath and tell yourself “I love you, I love you for this choice and all the others you have made in your life. I will accept you as you are this very minute.” Take one more deep breath, exhaling slowly.

This simple, momentary change of thought and heart yields tremendous power. It not only pulls you out of your negative auto/ego-matic pilot, it signals the brain to release a more relaxing set of chemicals and hormones and offers you what we all need more of – love and support – thereby increasing the possibility you will be more open to seeing, feeling and sharing love and support with yourself and others in the future. Try it, and repeat it every time you slip back into any negative auto/ego-matic thinking!  (I know this will be a change for you, so please re-read Steps 1 & 2 and then repeat as necessary.)

Please note: If you were beating-up on yourself for having said or done something to someone that hurt them now is a good time to apologize, and if your ego-matic mind ramps-up to dissuade you, repeat Step 3, and then go for it. Here are some tips on apologizing to help you out. 

knot-252096_960_720Don’t tie yourself or your life up in knots thinking change or life is too hard. Don’t hide from hope, don’t turn your back on possibilities and please, no matter how many times life knocks you down, believe better is possible.

If you find yourself flat on your back, emotionally or physically, don’t worry about jumping right back up, simply take a deep breath, let a feeling of peace wash over you, repeat the words in quotes in Step 3 and then relax knowing better days are ahead.

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Letting go

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Love this quote

pyramids“The world will tell you there are pyramids you must climb to feel successful. Pay no attention. Your life’s joy isn’t at the apex of a pyramid. It comes from a well of creativity that flows from your very center.”                Martha Beck

I learned a long time ago that I did not have to get the highest grade, hold the highest position or trek the highest mountain to truly enjoy life.  I embraced the journey as my reward and the peaceful moments along the way as my true north star.

Be easy on yourself this weekend, work in moments for being not doing and do not run from the messages that may bubble to the surface. Treasure them for they will lead you to your true self and provide a path to the life you really want.

 

 

Your life is your once in a lifetime opportunity!
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A very special Monday morning

This is the first Monday of the spring of 2018! Isn’t that marvelous?

New beginnings are in the air. As nature begins to refresh itself , pushing through the layers that once protected it but are no longer needed, it is the perfect time to think about how we would like to blossom in the year ahead.

What do crocus-3226433_960_720you want to grow in your life? Peace, prosperity, health, love, new adventures?

What dreams are waiting for you?

Share your thoughts and motivate others to push through the life layers that bind them.

I am looking forward to developing new projects for Wishful Thinking Works that combine my retreats with travel. To expanding my speaking engagements and the services I offer, and to developing new resources and finding new and exciting ways to share them with all of you.

But most of all, I am looking forward to becoming more aware of my feelings and gaining more insight into myself. Each year I grow happier, stronger, more fulfilled and I am always joyfully learning new ways to embrace all of me – the good, the bad and the beautiful!

I wish the same and more for all of you this spring!

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Spring is here!

 

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