Free Virtual WTW Workshop, “Finding More Meaning in Your Life”

Wishful Thinking Works Meaning of Life (2)Do you feel that your life has purpose and meaning?

Studies show that those who are leading a purposeful life – live longer, are happier and experience a greater sense of resiliency and trust!

Would you like to learn more about the concept of meaning, the role it plays in your life and how to find yours?

If so, join us to learn about the latest research on meaning and to take an individual survey to discover where you fall on the meaningful life scale. (Only you will know your score, unless you choose to share it!)

Taking the 3-5 minute survey can help you get started on your personal meaning journey. A few days before we meet I will send you the survey and we will score it at the end of our session.

Also before we meet, please read my Wishful Thinking Works post about PERMA (3 minutes), which describes a bit about purpose and then join us for a fun evening of insights and positivity! (Hint: Meaning is related to connectedness and relationship, but not necessarily how we may normally think about them.)

We will begin at 6:30 pm with a Welcome and Intros and then I will share on the topic for about 35-40 minutes followed by Q & A and survey scoring.

RSVP today!  I will email you details about joining our call by June 26.

 

Meaning matters and can enrich and expand your life!

Talk with you soon.

Warm regards,

Patrice

 

 

Quiet Moments

Quiet Moments by Wishful Thinking Works

Mykonos, Greece – This is one of the most beautiful moments from our recent three weeks abroad. When these soul-savoring moments arise, I have learned to breathe deeply and pause to savor the tranquility and the beauty, and to soak-up the scene, letting it settle into my heart, my head, my body.
Living your life with pause, can change your perspective and totally realign your heart and soul, and maybe even your future.
I paused again this morning when looking past another deep-set window sill at our tiny backyard’s glossy green, rain-soaked grass. Magic moments are everywhere. Don’t miss the chance to change or enhance your life by pausing.
And, breathe . . .
Warmest regards,
Patrice

Your life begins when you do . . .

IMG_2403 (2)I have been traveling abroad over the last few weeks and am now spending a few days in Athens, Greece in a little apartment with a beautiful garden terrace, billowing soft white curtains and great wifi. Life is good.

This post from popped up this morning, and it reminded me how dramatically my life changed when I began living it!

I read Mary Anne Radmacher’s inspirational little book Life Begins When You Do back in 2011 when I wrote this post. For those of you who are letting life pass you by, please don’t! I began living mine more fully about 20 years ago, and almost every day continues to surprise and delight me.  

Mary Anne Radmacher’s words . . .

Nearly everyone postpones one grand thing or a collection of mighty hopes and dreams.

Between the quote marks of our lives are phrases like these: “When things slow down…when I finish my degree…when I get certified…as I acquire a deeper knowledge base…when I have kids…when the kids are grown…when I get well…when I marry…when I divorce…when I retire…when I get that promotion, that raise, that job, that house, that whatever the fill-in-the blank is for your specific postponing of life…”

Your Life Begins When You Do.

You may think you are postponing the longing of your soul until life aligns itself with your vision, until elements conspire to be more favorable…but as it happens, life just lolls along at the same remarkable consistent and disinterested cadence. Life is impartial. YOUR personal, subjective life (dreams, satisfactions, contentment, achievements, vision, fullness, passion, aspirations) begins when you begin.

From my teens into adulthood, I said, “I want to be an artist.” One day I changed the sentence to, “I am an artist.” My view changed. Life began. I looked behind me and saw that I had been accidentally living as an artist. I had been laying down a path that was only now visible to eyes that had begun to see. Beginning my life as an artist made my heart’s longing and the small, tentative labors of my hands – visible and tangible. I began by opening the door and simply believing that I could live my dream. I began living that dream by seeing that I could.

Your purpose, that thing that among the many to-dos of your days, is what you must do. Embrace the truth of your purpose each minute of your precious life…for how very true it is that life begins when you do.

If you would dream it . . . BEGIN it.

If you have an idea . . . OPEN it.

If there is longing . . . ACKNOWLEDGE it.

If there is mission . . . COMMIT it.

If there is daring . . . DO it.

If there is love  . . . SPEAK it.

If there is resource  . . . USE it.

Don’t delay living the life of your dreams. You can begin this weekend. Check my Resource section and posts to get started. 

With hope and dreams,

Patrice

 

You can do it!

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Monday Morning Ritual

It’s Monday morning. (But you probably already knew that.)

Could you use a quick boost of energy without another short-lived, crazy kick of caffeine? coffee-791045_960_720

If so, write down three things that made you happy this weekend.  They don’t have to be big things, but if they are – congratulations!

Maybe it was a great cup of cappuccino or tea, or a nice glass of wine or meal .  .  . Or, perhaps fun with family or friends .  .  . Getting the weeds pulled, the grass cut, flowers planted, the closets cleaned, or the wash done.

Did you have a great night out, or a quiet, relaxing day in? Special time with the kids or grand kids?

Whatever made you happy this weekend is worth noting and savoring – and you can do both in less than 3 minutes, maybe even 2!

1. Write down what made you happy. (Feel free to post them in comments.) Just a quick sentence, phrase or word or two can make a positive difference. Drawing or doodling them also works. (If you are really pressed for time, think about them on your way to work.)

2. Close your eyes, and take a deep breath. (If driving, skip the closing the eyes part!)

3. Now, savor each memory: picture the people, the setting, your feelings.  Hold them for a few seconds, take another deep breath, hold them- add a few more details and then let the your thoughts fade as you open your eyes and relax your shoulders and stretch your neck a bit to the left and right.

That’s it. Doesn’t it feel nice? (If you didn’t try it, you cannot say “No”!)

This quick ritual (repeatedly regularly), can make all the difference in your day or week. To enrich and expand the feeling – follow-up by listening to your favorite tunes on the way to work, or after everyone heads out the door. (Dancing is entirely optional, but personally recommended.)

Or, if Monday mornings are particularly tough for you, simply sway to some laid-back,  soothing music. It’s comforting and may even release a bouquet of relaxing hormones and natural chemicals into your blood stream that will help you glide through your day – or at least the morning.

If you are thinking, “What is she nuts? . . . I don’t have time to breath, yet alone sway?”, please note that while you were thinking that, you had enough time to take a deep breath and at least picture what it would feel like if you did have the time to savor and sway, and even that would help – so maybe you should simply let go and try it!  :-)

monday-1236072__340Okay, so most of us will never love or look forward to Mondays, but truly the best way to face the week ahead, is to at least make friends with them.

Sleep a little later or get up earlier to stretch or exercise  .  .  .  Plan a special breakfast, lunch or low-cal snacks to enjoy throughout the day .  .  . Wear something you love or save something new on Mondays only .  .  . Embrace your break – color, call a friend or start that book you’ve been dying to read.

When you get home . . . Plan an early dinner, eat leftovers or make Mondays someone else’s night to cook.  Make Mondays a no TV or electronics night for you and the kids, read to them or simply turn off the lights, lay on your backs on a  blanket in the family room and talk about your day. Kids love both novelty and rituals – creating interesting moments together is a great stress buster for everyone.

The key is to be kind to yourself, to get creative and to customize your rituals for you – and the kids if you’ve got ’em – and then make sure you savor them each and every Monday, and, only on Mondays to make your “its” extra special.

It might take a few Mondays to get in the habit, but you and the peace you will feel, are worth it.

And, breathe . . .

You can do it!

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New beginnings

Spring has sprung and summer is heading our way.

It is the perfect time for renewing your spirit and taking on new adventures.

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Today, I’m hosting my first Wishful Thinking Women’s Meetup group on Long Island! It’s all about positivity and creating the lives we really want. My Wishful Thinking Women’s Meetup group in the Fort Myers, Florida area has 900+ members and has been going strong for 6 years this month! Fun to be starting and sharing “up north”; I can’t wait to meet everyone.

What new and exciting experiences and adventures do you have planned for the next few months?  How could you stretch yourself personally or professionally? What could you do to repair your spirit? Your Mind? Your heart? Your soul?

Find the new you this summer, or unearth the you, you used to be! Many of us spend more time planting our gardens and planning vacations than we do our lives! Who do you want to be? To feel? To experience?

This is the season for growth and renewal. Why not get in sync with nature by taking time in the next few days or week to reflect on what you truly want to bring into your life, and then begin planting the seeds of change.

Begin by asking yourself these three simple questions. Take the time to write down your answers (at least three sentences for each answer) and draw a picture or two about them. Use your answers to begin daydreaming forward:

  1. What do you want to see through your kitchen window?
  2. When your were a kid what was your favorite thing to do in the summer, why?
  3. What were your favorite books as a kid and as an adult, and why?

Bonus questions – Answering them can bring more happiness into your life and begin planting and sowing the seeds of change this summer – that’s a real bonus!  Go with your first answers.

  • What one thing can you do this week to bring some of the joy your memories and answers brought back to you?
  • How could you create new joy in your life this week?
  • How could you create more joy in the life of someone you care about?

 

You can do it!

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Let go

Want to learn to let go of control? To let life take care of itself?

I know it is difficult and scary, but at least consider the option. (If just thinking about letting go causes you anxiety, breathe deep and keep reading!)

In a current 21-day free meditation series, Deepak Chopra noted that “your heart beats without you choosing to make it happen”.  How true, and yet we still think we still need to control everything!

mural-1347673__340You do not have to solve every problem that arises – yours or others. And, most challenges do not have to be solved now, or on your own! You can learn to trust yourself, the world and others. (Keep-up those deep breaths . . . )

I’ve done it so many times in my life, and the rewards have been enormous. Deepak reminded me to keep it up, and to apply to everything!  (More deep breaths!)

Deepak advises that “life can take care of itself”.  He suggests that when we recognize an issue needs attention, we take action by “holding an open, neutral intention for a creative solution, and then simply let it go.”

If we allow ourselves to be fully open, our personal awareness and the awareness of the universe will share solutions with us.

Sounds very new agey, but the truth is when we calm down and trust ourselves, solutions flow. Our brains relax, and release calming chemicals and hormones, which allow us to think more clearly and more creatively.

When we trust there is a solution our options begin to grow and develop. And, the truth is, there are many solutions for every single issue we face, being able to see them is the true challenge. That is what letting go is – trusting and seeing.

Let go. Set your intention for a creative solution and relax a bit. The world will not come tumbling down, and the issues we create or face will diminish in size and frequency over time.

It is so much easier to face life with a calm heart and a relaxed mind, and with the belief that there are solutions for everything, even if we do not have the answers right this minute. When you let go, you become the light at the end of every tunnel!

So, take a deep breathe, and let the rest go. Repeat as necessary!

You can do it!

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Create a vision for your future

“So relaxing and inspiring”

“Fun…made me remember things that I always wanted to do, but forgot about them!”

“Wow, fun and surprising, new ideas popped up.”

Wishful Thinking Women were busy capturing their dreams on vision boards at a gathering earlier this week. I have created many over the years.  They have never failed to inspire me, and I believe they have helped my future far exceed my dreams.

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The “best” vision board is the one you create for yourself! Get busy this weekend capturing your future. It’s easy – all you need is poster board, magazines, scissors, glue and your dreams!

Think about how you want your life to look and feel – and then cut and paste your vision. Keeping it front and center in your life over the next few weeks, month or years will increase the likelihood that your dreams will come true – all it takes is you!

Wishful Thinking Works Vision Boarding tips:

  1. Gather all of your supplies in one place – make sure you have room to spread out.  A variety of magazines works best, but even if you only have a few, go for it.
  2. Set the mood. Pour yourself a glass of wine or a cup of tea, play the music of your choice – this is a great time for new age or classical, but go with what works best for you.
  3. Sit quietly for a moment and take some deep breaths. Say a few positive, comforting phrases to yourself such as:.  “The future of my dreams is waiting for me.”  “How do I want it to look and feel?”  “I am excited about what lies ahead for me.”
  4. And, then go for it! Don’t censor yourself. If something catches your eye, cut it out. You can figure out how it “fits” later.
  5. Once you have a big stack of pictures and words, begin arraigning them on your board. (Dollar Stores sell the thicker foam core poster board for only $1!
  6. Toss anything you cut out that no longer appeals to you – no regrets – we are creating a future that excites and delights you! You are in charge.
  7. Begin gluing the pieces down when you like the arrangement. Nothing has to be perfect here, have fun with it. (You can always create a new board, in fact I recommended doing at least one vision board a year to keep your ideas fresh and flowing, your motivation strong and your inspiration growing. In times of change, try doing one every 3 months or so.)
  8. When you have finished review your board. Create a story for your future, including all the pieces and parts you have captured. Share the story with yourself, as though you are talking to a friend and you have already accomplished everything on the board. Don’t skip this step – no matter how silly it sounds to be taking to yourself – it is key and helps you and your brain truly buy into and reinforce your dreams.

“I just took the trip of a lifetime . . . My new job is amazing . . . I can’t believe I am already done with college/the book/the move . . . This move was the best idea I ever had, I love . . . I feel so much more relaxed now that I am . . . I cannot believe how quickly the pounds came off when I . . . It was hard, but I feel so much better now that I have . . .”

The options are endless and just like your future – the choices are yours.

The future you truly want is waiting for you.  Have fun creating it.

You can do it!

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