Many of you will soon be celebrating the Fourth of July with parties, picnics and pyrotechnics. Why not combine your patriotic passion with your personal triumphs – and celebrate them all!
Mid-year is the perfect time to celebrate YOU and your life by creating your very own “Ta Da List.”
The Wishful Thinking Works “Ta Da List” is much more fun than a “To Do” list, because it’s for all the things you’ve already accomplished this year – pure enjoyment with little effort!
My guess is you seldom take time to give yourself credit for all the wonderful things you have done or the challenges you have overcome. Make today your personal Independence Day by taking a moment to reflect on what makes you and your life worth celebrating as you list your accomplishments – big or small – on your personal “Ta Da” list. It’s instant gratification of a new kind and much healthier than ice cream or holiday snacks.
What have you accomplished this year that just six months ago seemed impossible or only a distant possibility? (Feel free to include anything you have ever accomplished – this is the time to toot your horn.)
What new trails have you blazed?
What have you found the strength to face?
New jobs? Degrees? Classes? Healthy practices begun? Pounds lost? (Yes, you can count the same ones over again!) Miles run? Promises kept? Chances taken? Letters written?
What teeny, tiny or wondrously huge steps have you taken in the direction of your dreams?
List any and all of the things that make you happy and proud to be you!
Most of us spend way more time thinking about what we haven’t done, than what we have done. It’s time to change all that and make 2019 your year of the have’s not the have not’s! Celebrating success builds confidence and noting what is right in our lives makes us happier and more resilient.
Don’t be shy – this is the time for aiming high and lighting up the sky. List everything you have done that matters to you, and then when you are watching “the rockets red glare and bombs bursting in air” congratulate yourself on your 2019 accomplishments thus far, and all the exciting ones that lay ahead. Let those bright lights and loud booms ignite a sense of personal pride in you.
And, when you finish your list, make sure to take a few minutes to offer up some gratitude for each and everything thing on it and all the folks who were part of your success. Gratitude is the fast track to happiness!
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Today is “International Happiness Day,” so I am sharing Jack Canfield’s “How to Change Your Mood in 60 Seconds” video to make sure we are as happy as we can be today. (You may remember Jack as the co-author of the “Chicken Soup” series of books. He’s written many more since then and is an international motivational speaker, as well.)
I have posted many similar tips here at Wishful Thinking Works, and agree with Jack’s ideas and outlook. Why not jump on the happy train today by grabbing a cup of coffee or tea while you relax and watch his 9:12 minute video?
Let me know your thoughts and what works for you when you are trying to shift gears or to ramp up your mood. Try Jack’s tips, and comment below. Everyone learns when we share!
“A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts. . .
As the plant springs from, and could not be without, the seed, so every act of a man springs from the hidden seeds of thought, and could not have appeared without them. This applies equally to those acts called “spontaneous” and “unpremeditated” as to those, which are deliberately executed.
Act is the blossom of thought, and joy and suffering are its fruits; thus does a man garner in the sweet and bitter fruitage of his own husbandry.“ As a Man Thinketh, James Allen, Free Library
Give your character and your soul a chance to grow, treat yourself and others kindly in your thoughts.
The key is to become aware of the differences in your body when thinking soul enhancing thoughts vs thoughts that cause you stress or worry.
When you can feel the difference in your body, the choice will become easier. The path to character opens up and rewards you with positive responses from the universe.
When you stray from the path, gently and kindly remind yourself your goal is to build character and to stretch your soul, and ask yourself how your current thoughts are making you feel. Are your feelings in alignment with your goal?
If your thoughts are causing you strife, breathe deeply and kindly redirect your thoughts, taking a moment to applaud yourself for shifting gears. Peace is character building and joy helps shine a light on the path you want to follow.
It’s scary, I know. To trust yourselves so deeply that you believe you are the master of your feelings and your path, but the rewards are so great it is a shame to not give it a chance.
Picture yourself one year from today, excited and thrilled about what you accomplished in 2019! I realize the year has barely begun, but one of the best ways to move forward is to have a clear picture of yourself feeling satisfied and grateful about what you have accomplished – before it is done!
Picturing the life you want makes it feel real, which releases all sorts of chemicals in your brain that will relax your body and expand your creativity and positivity by creating new neural pathways. It’s science, but feels like magic!
Picture it done!
Create a positive, rewarding outcome for your biggest dreams and then sit back and enjoy a movie-like mental reel highlighting how your personalized success looks and feels. Daydream your way into the vision of yourself you want to see and be.
Prime your brain by envisioning yourself celebrating your future success. Perhaps you are telling your friends just how wonderful it feels to be 10 pounds lighter and how you did it; how thrilled you are for sticking to your running schedule and the difference it has made in your life; to be so close to finishing school and planning your graduation; how scared you were to start writing your book, but how good it feels to be in the editing stage; how wonderful it feels to be in your new home for the holidays or how beautiful Paris is in the spring.
Don’t be afraid to visualize your dreams.
Include as many details as possible to fully experience your personalized magic carpet ride. Daydreams are all about imagination – go for it. (Don’t worry about how your dreams will come true, believing they can is the key.)
Help is just outside your comfort zone, but never outside of your reach.
There is absolutely no reason to face change alone. I designed all of these free Wishful Thinking Works resources for you. Use them to make your dreams come true in 2019.
If you are heading to a family gathering this weekend but do not see eye-to-eye with all of your loved ones about touchy topics such as politics, religion, child-rearing, sports, lifestyles, or even the weather or who should bring what – this post is for you.
I am sharing my Wishful Thinking Works version of “The Twelve Days of Christmas,”which I wrote in 2010 after being inspired earlier in the year by author and life coach Marianne Ford. Marianne reminded me that being right isn’t a right and sometimes conversations and life go better when, instead of sharing our wisdom, opinions, advice, or rebuttals – we simply listen and respond with a friendly, “I hear you.” or a non-committal but respectful “Ah- huh,” Wow!” “Okay,” or “Really?”
In other words, when respect is present agreement is not a necessity. We can change our experience and the conversation by using Marianne’s tips to transform debates into discussions and boring exchanges into interesting encounters.
I can use a bit of help around this time of year, so I wove Marianne’s thoughts and some of my musings into . . .
“Wishful Thinking Works’ “12 Ways to Survive Holiday Happenings”
On the 1st day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me patience for the party,
On the 2nd day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 2 sacks of courage.
On the 3rd day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 3 “Ah-huh’s.”
On the 4th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 4 smiling nods.
On the 5th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 5 “Oh, that’s great’s!”
On the 6th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 6 “Tell me more’s.”
On the 7th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 7 “That sounds interesting’s.”
On the 8th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 8 “I-can-do-this’s!”
On the 9th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 9 “Okay.” “Wow!” “Really’s?”
On the 10th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 10 “That sounds so frustrating’s.”
On the 11th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 11 “Oh my gosh’s.”
On the 12th day of Christmas my inner wisdom gave to me 12 “I got through it! I am so happy!”
Feel free to share my new holiday classic with your friends and family. It may help everyone’s holiday shine a bit brighter and feel a tad merrier.
(In case it comes up at a holiday gathering, the twelve days of Christmas are the evening of December 24/January 6 or December 25/January 7 – depending on the calendar, Julian/Gregorian, you are following.)
And, if you are now trying to remember the original lyrics to “The Twelve Days of Christmas,” here they are . . .
Twelve drummers drumming,
Eleven pipers piping,
Ten lords a-leaping,
Nine ladies dancing,
Eight maids a-milking,
Seven swans a-swimming,
Six geese a-laying,
Five golden rings,
Four calling birds,
Three French hens,
Two turtle doves,
And a partridge in a pear tree!
Studies show simply hearing a compliment, such as “You are beautiful,” even from a perfect stranger – can brighten your day.
Why wait for someone to tell you that you are beautiful? Why not start each day by looking into those sweet little eyes of yours in the mirror and sharing a “Hello, Beautiful” with yourself?
Telling yourself you are beautiful, is an act of self-compassion. Saying it out loud is a act of courage, and can reduce your holiday stress by putting a smile on your face and maybe even a bit of merry in your mood.
Don’t worry if you feel shy, or even embarrassed; keep up the practice and you will feel the joy. The happier you are, the more likely you will be to notice the beauty in the people and the world around you, which is a true expression of the holiday spirit. And, you can share your joy by letting others know how beautiful they are, which is the perfect gift for strangers or your loved ones.
Start today, and by the New Year you will be welcoming 2019 with a brand new perspective to keep the good feelings flowing throughout the year.
Give it a try, Beautiful, because you are gorgeous, inside and out, and you deserve to hear it much more often.
If you are still hesitant to give it a try, check out this video, or this one, or this one, or even this one, to see people’s happiness when they are told how beautiful they are. It is heartwarming and my holiday gift you to, and it’s guaranteed to make you smile!