The Parable of the Arrow
A man was walking through a forest, when suddenly seemingly out of nowhere, an arrow pierced his thigh. He felt a sharp pain. Then, immediately following he felt anger. The thought quickly came. Where did the arrow come from? Who shot it? I’m going to find him. He must be punished. He finally pulled the arrow out of his leg. Gradually the physical pain went away and the wound healed. His anger continued for days. His thoughts of anger and frustration reoccurred for the rest of his life.
Another man was walking through a forest. When seemingly out of nowhere, an arrow pierced his thigh. He felt a sharp pain. He took out the arrow and continued walking. The wound healed.
Adaptation from a Buddhist Teaching
How do you want to live? The choice is always yours.
One of the sweetest reviews I ever received . . .
“patrice is awesome…she can ask a question that you think you have no answer for and all of a sudden she has changed your world by making you find the truth in yourself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!”
You have the answers, getting still helps you hear what your heart is trying to tell you. Stillness and heartfelt inquiry will help you reveal your truths. Don’t be afraid of finding the answers, if you are asking or responding you are ready.
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University of Rochester researcher Thuy-vy T. Nguyen, M.A. recently completed 4 studies related to solitude. Here’s one of the major findings her work revealed summed-up nicely by Bella DePaulo Ph.D. in a recent Psychology Today article:
“In short, the people who sat alone by themselves for 15 minutes with no electronic devices, and who got to choose what to think about, or who thought about positive things (by choice or by assignment) had very positive experiences of solitude. They felt calmer and less angry or anxious, without also feeling any sadder or lonelier, and without losing any of their feelings of excitement or enthusiasm.”
15 minutes of quiet – no phones, laptops, Echo or Alexa – can increase positive feelings and reduce stress. How wonderful is that?
Here’s how to unwrap this personalized, peaceful present that will keep on giving to you throughout the year!
Give yourself this free and easy, sure-fire gift to make your life feel more relaxing and fulfilled this holiday season.
You deserve it! Unwrap your 15-minutes-a-day for the next 21 days, and see how your happiness grows.
“Tis the Season to be . . .
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Life is interesting, little moments of insight and joy can pop-up for us each day in unexpected and unusual places.
When I started watching this video I really had a strong negative response to the woman being interviewed. I had no clue why but for some reason she rubbed me the wrong way. Fortunately, I decided to stick with it because learning more about meditation is something I value; I decided to focus on the message and not the messenger. I am so glad I did.
I truly enjoyed Susan Piver’s insights and knowledge, and owe her an apology! Susan shares great information about how our minds behave while meditating – they will wander – lots, and that is okay. She also notes, that the key is to become aware that we are thinking and then gently and kindly return to focusing on our breath. (The realization that we are thinking means we are aware and in the moment, which is the goal of meditation, so while our thinking might distract us, our awareness of it is truly a good thing.)
She suggested the simple but memorable imagery of watching your breath during meditation as you would a slowing swinging hammock – your breath enters and leaves just as a hammock rocks back and forth.
If your day gets chaotic or rocky – and whose doesn’t on occasion – treat yourself to the cozy effect of watching a hammock gently rocking back and forth while cradling you and your sweet little overworked brain and then take a deep breath, or two or three and continue on your way.
Your brain, your heart and your soul will thank you.
Here’s a video to get you started. If this beach scene isn’t your thing, conjure up the image that makes you feel happy and relaxed. (I am deep in the woods, listening to the sounds of birds, leaves rustling and for a split second the beauty of silence.)
To listen to Susan’s interview, which was part of the Shambhala Mountain Center “Reality Summit” and is only available today and tomorrow, click here.
I truly enjoyed it after I got over myself and let go of my personal biases and stereotypical thinking! To key into her comments about the hammock, listen from minutes 9:21 to 12:02.
Let me know what you think.