FREE Top 10 Positive Emotions Online Gathering

Join us on Thursday, April 9 at 11 am when I will be sharing the many benefits of growing “Your Top 10 Positive Emotions.”

Lots of folks, who missed the presentation this past Friday asked for a recording, but since there is not one available, I will simply redo the presentation. (Those who attended gave it great reviews!)

“GREAT Presentation from Patrice as always! Great message and a great exercise to focus on the positives instead of the negative!”

“Gave me a new way of thinking about positive emotions, thanks!”

I am using ZOOM so we can interact and I can share a PowerPoint. You will be able to see me, but you can choose whether or not you want us to see you! Zoom is FREE, you can download now or simply do so on Friday, just give yourself a few minute head start so you don’t miss.

Click here or the link below to join our Zoom Meeting, You will be happy you did!

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Join the fun today at 3pm when I will be sharing the many benefits of growing “Your Top 10 Positive Emotions.” Learn how they can help you Broaden and build your life and how creating a Positivity Portfolio can make your life even better!

I am using ZOOM so we can interact and I can share a PowerPoint. You will be able to see me, but you can choose whether or not you want us to see you!

Zoom is FREE, you can download now or simply do so later today through the link below, just give yourself a few minute head start so you don’t miss a thing.

Click https://us04web.zoom.us/j/405457512 to join us.

Taking in the Good

I wanted to share a quick and easy way to bring more joy into your life. Rick Hanson, Ph.D. is a neuropsychologist, who has written a number of books on the technique, which he calls “Taking in the Good.” Other folks describe a similar method, known as savoring. No matter the name, it is a simple, fast way to refresh your outlook or your state of mind.

Begin by selecting a positive moment from your life – past, present or something you would like to create in the future, and then close your eyes and create an image of the moment in your mind. Stay with the image for 30-60 seconds.

Let your mind wander and daydream a bit about your moment – fill in as many details as you can. Relive, notice, or create lots of sensory relationships in your mind to your image – sights, smells, sounds, etc. and think about how good you felt/feel/or will feel about your joy-filled memory or moment.

Keep going until you actually feel a difference in your body. You might find yourself smiling, or your shoulders relaxing or wiggling a bit. You may feel sensations flowing through your entire body or you might get goose bumps! When you feel like you are there your brain will react accordingly and release a bouquet of goodness.

Your moments to not have to be momentous, although they will work, as well. I savor each and every lattè or cappuccino I drink, and I always feel as though I have been on a mini-vacation! It is so relaxing.

If you savor your personal positives 6 times a day – for a total of only 5-10 minutes – you will not only change your brain chemistry while you are savoring it, over time you will rewire your brain to think and feel more positively.

Set an alarm on your phone or with Alexa to remind you throughout the day to pause and savor. Or get in the habit of “Taking in the Good” each time you get a cup of coffee, brush your teeth, wake-up, go to sleep – anything you do on a regular basis can be a great reminder for you.

Don’t worry about doing the process 6 times a day when you begin, simply start! If you remember to develop and embellish your thought – you will feel the effects immediately as your brain releases happy chemicals and hormones that help your brain cells connect. It’s science, and it works.

Go for it, “Take in the Good,” or savor a moment right now!

9 Easy Ways to Shake-Off Stress

Dear Wishful Thinking Works Readers,

Even the Market is taking 15 minute breaks. If this is a trying time for you, take a deep breath . . .three deep breaths with a slow exhale can do wonders for your body and your sweet little brain. Come on, right now is a good time.

Easy Ways to Give Yourself a Break

1. Watch kitten videos. If you hate those, watch any videos that will make you laugh or smile.

2. Listen to music. Play your favorites while your work.

3. Dance like nobody is watching. (If that is not your thing, lift your shoulders, stretch your arms, run in place for a few. the key is to move.)

4. Hug your kids- then read or play with them.

5. Clean that closet.

6. Call a friend. Or write those cards you have been meaning to send.

7. Download a good book or read the one that has been siting on your nightstand for months.

8. Get out in nature, if you can’t – check out nature web cams online or visit nature based sites – there are thousands waiting to delight you.

9. Review the photos in your phone, I just spent a few minutes on vacation reliving amazing trips.

Repeat as needed, and increase your self-care – now is a great time to treat yourself gently.

Breathe . . . this too shall pass.

Thinking of you,

Patrice

2020! New decade, new you!

Happy New Year!

Let’s start at the very beginning! A very good place to start!

When Julie Andrews, as Maria, sang “Do-Re-Mi” to the children in movie “The Sound of Music”, she was encouraging them and making singing fun. Maria wanted to give them the confidence and courage they needed to enjoy a new aspect of life, and that is exactly what I want to do for you today.

I am sharing with you today two FREE resources to help you create the life you really want through positive reflection and insight, which will increase your confidence and your courage, and maybe even make you feel like you are on a mountain top singing! (The resources are great to do with kids and teens, as well.)

1. Wishful Thinking Works 2019 Year in Review “Ta Da” List

The first resource is the Wishful Thinking Works 2019 “Ta Da” List, the first version of which I developed in 2012 to help you live your best life by reflecting on and savoring the good already in your life. My “Ta Da” List has been so effective in reminding me of what was good in my life, that I no longer wait an entire year to use it to reinforce the goodness that has come my way or to review the positives I have achieved.

I complete my “Ta Da” List during the first week of the New Year and then again around the 4th of July, which is Independence Day in the U.S.A. My twice a year habit gives me both confidence and courage, and when I review and savor each entry, my brain is flooded with positive chemicals and hormones that can create the same level of joy and excitement the original event did. I love that it is like a two-for-one sale in my brain! And, who doesn’t love a good sale. especially at this time of year?

It is so much easier for us to focus on our sad times and our real and perceived losses than it is for us to savor the good ones, using your Wishful Thinking Works 2019 “Ta Da” List will help you redirect your energies, ramp-up your enthusiasm and reinforce your commitment to living your best life.

2. Wishful Thinking Works 2020 Predict Success “Ta Da” List

Using your Wishful Thinking Works 2020 Predict Success “Ta Da” List is a fun way to design your future. It can help you give a totally new direction to your life, or simply create new pathways for you to enjoy.

To use your 2020 Predict Success “Ta Da” List, simply list all the things you want to happen in 2020 – big or small – as if they already have happened and how having them or accomplishing them has made you feel.

EX: “I feel fantastic that I finished my degree. It was tough, but I am so proud of myself for keeping at it. I learned so much about myself and the world by pursuing this degree. I feel so happy about getting it.” Remember, you do not have to have the degree in 2020, only the desire to start or finish it – you are predicting your success.

Be bold. Be brave. Don’t censor yourself or your dreams. I have been predicting success for myself for more than a decade and so many of my dreams have become a reality – my Masters degree, serving 3 times in the Peace Corps, travel beyond my expectations, a loving relationship, warm supportive friendships, living my purpose daily and so much more.

Don’t be afraid of your future – predict and then picture it! The Wishful Thinking Works 2020 Predict Success “Ta Da” List is one page and will get you started, but I encourage you to transfer the categories to a notebook so you can fully explore and write about your new life throughout 2020.

 

Wishing you the happiest of New Year’s and the confidence and courage to believe in yourself and your potential and the possibilities that exist for you in the decade ahead. Wishful Thinking Works – go for it!

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Your life is your once in a lifetime opportunity; what you do with it is up to you.” 
Patrice K. Robson

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Advent of Kindness Calendar

Many Wishful Thinking Works Facebook followers have been using an Advent of Kindness Calendar to share a bit more kindness this holiday season.

Visit Wishful Thinking Works on FB to join in the fun. I am posting daily about the Calendar to keep us on track for kindness! There is still plenty of time to jump-in! read all about the Calendar and more on FB.

Thanksgiving Tales

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Oral traditions are almost as old as mankind. Telling stories has been bringing families and communities together for thousands of years. Writing them has been going on for hundreds of generations.

The type of stories we tell, shape our relationships and our realities.

Why not start a new Thanksgiving tradition by sharing a short personal story about someone or something you are thankful for as you sit down to enjoy Thanksgiving dinner? Many Americans will be sharing what they are thankful for, but why not expand the moment and the feelings by telling a story?

Your story does not have to be long or earth-shattering, just real and heartfelt.

We are much more inclined to complain about our lives and the trials and tribulations we face than we are to celebrate the moments that make life and magical and memorable. And, yet, most of us have lives filled with touching tales – small moments or momentous events when something or everything went well or turned-out right, or someone reached out to us at just the right time.

What better time than Thanksgiving to share simple, sweet, touching tales of who we are and why others matter to us?

Here are few of my tales to get you in the storytelling mood . . .

I often think of Mrs. Grace Weidenthal and how her kindness and support helped me get a women’s group scholarship for “Older Returning Students”, which led to my finishing college and eventually my Masters. (I was 28 at the time!)

I will never forget the kindness shared to me as a child by my mother’s friend and one of my younger brothers’ godmothers. When Mrs. Werner brought my brother a gift for his birthday or a holiday, she always made sure to include something smaller, but no less special, for the other siblings closest to his age. A small gesture on her part, but one that filled my heart and head with pleasure and promise! I knew I would be included, and looked forward to her visits with anticipation, not only for her gifts but also to her boisterous and booming voice as she bestowed our treats upon us. She spread joy and generosity with gusto.

I often think of the help Professor Potteroff at Cuyahoga Community College gave me. Without the time he spent tutoring me, I am not sure I would have had the confidence to finish his Algebra class or to later take, and fall in love with, statistics.

I love it when someone does something small and kind, like holding a door, pausing to let me or others turn left, or slows a bit to let me enter a lane. Friendly cashiers can also make my day!

Sharing tales of positive moments in our lives might take some getting used to or may seem a bit awkward at first, but all great traditions must start somewhere, why not this Thanksgiving?

Here are 5 tips for starting your Thanksgiving storytelling tradition:

  1. Keep it short.
  2. Keep it positive! No fair, sharing tales that shine a less than stellar light on anyone – no matter how funny or memorable the tale might be! Besides, sharing your happy moments, increases the odds other will be happier, too. (Happiness is contagious.)
  3. Suggest a lead-in or place slips of paper with printed lead-ins at everyone’s place or in a basket to pass. (Creating the slips and basket is a great pre-Thanksgiving task for kids. Let them use their creativity on the leads and the method of sharing. If you are short on kids, simply print them on paper and cut them up.)

1)    “I will never forget . . .”

2)    “I love(d) it when . . . ”

3)    “It felt really good when . . .”

4)    “I was so excited when . . .”

5)    “I often think of  . . . “

6)    “When I was a kid . . .”  Only use this lead in if what follows is strictly positive and not shared to teach a lesson or illustrate a point.

  1. Make sure you or one of the most outgoing children go first, this will “warm-up” the crowd.
  2. Really listen when folks are sharing; make sure they have the floor. You can even provide something fun to pass as the “Speaker’s Sharing Tool”. Anything related to the holiday will work; ceramic turkey, battery-lit candle, serving spoon, etc. The sillier or sentimental the item is, the better. Remember to thank each person who shares, before moving on.

Hopefully, reading this post has already brought good memories to mind and gotten you into the Thanksgiving spirit. If not, no problem, you still have plenty of time to think of a thankful tale or two, and to get things ready for your guests to share in your new tradition.

Have fun!

“Your life is your once in a lifetime opportunity; what you do with it is up to you.” 

Patrice K. Robson

Fall is the time for awakening or realizing dreams

The subtle changes in the weather delight me most.

Autumn has a way of making each of us imagine we are the first to notice the changes it brings, or that the awareness is a private joy, like a new love or a special gift just for us. We embrace the change, assuming no one has ever felt exactly like this before, or that we are special.

And, yet as the day unfolds we realize everyone is talking about the change in weather. We quickly come to understand that others are noticing the changes in the air, the dusty, drier scents and the way the light softens and takes on a golden hue, but instead of being disappointed that others are enjoying the same sensations we are – as we might feel while competing for the same person’s attention or the disappointment that the gift received was given to others, as well, – autumn has a way of making us excited that we will have others to celebrate with.

The change of season hold gifts for all of us.

Explore and enjoy all the ideas, tastes, and plans that pop-up in the weeks ahead. Eat the chili, bake the pie, watch the game, spend time strolling through the woods, or sitting by the fire, pick the apples, meander through the booths at the fairs, and take time to listen to the whispers of your heart that might have been drowned-out by the heat and activities of summer.

Now is it the time to take a deep breath, renew your spirit and follow the path that will light up your life.

Peace in the storm

Happy Thursday Morning.

How are you doing today? I hope your are feeling well and enjoying some peaceful moments no matter what is swirling around you.

I used to think that if I was surrounded by chaos I had to jump in and tame the waves. I felt it was my job to calm the seas, no matter how overwhelmed I felt by all the crazy swirling around me.

In my 20’s and 30’s I was often the carrier of bad news and gossipy comments, and I was more than willing to take most things personally.  Defensive mechanisms for sure, but hurtful to others, nonetheless.

Lucky for me, over the years and with lots of trial and error, reflection, and meditation I realized I can observe and care but not connect in ways that create chaos for me or others, and that even in the saddest or scariest circumstances it is possible to find moments of joy, peace, and balance – without guilt!

Trusting in the goodness of others and their abilities is key, and listening and letting people know that we are connected, that we care, and that they are capable, lovable, and worth listening to and being loved is a much better approach – for everyone. 

Today, I wish you joy and peace and the courage to find them during stressful and difficult times. I know you can do it, and I know at times it will be difficult, but I trust that you won’t stop trying. I believe in you and know you are wonderful, lovable and worth it.

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Your life is your once in a lifetime opportunity; what you do with it is up to you.” 
Patrice K. Robson

Meditation and mirrors

The focus of Day 15 of Oprah and Deepak’s free 21 Day series on “Miraculous Relationships”, which I and many folks around the world are participating in is, “The world is my mirror.”

We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are.” – The Talmud

So true and sometimes such a bitter pill to swallow. Our lives truly reflect our souls. What we share in our relationships, we receive in return.

On a good day this is easy for me to accept, but on a bad day I seldom remember to ask myself, “How did I contribute to what is happening?” It takes courage and trust in ourselves to ask the tough questions. (I am not saying everything that happens to us is our fault, but I do believe being kind, loving, aware, and brave can the lessen the impact negative or trying events or people have on us.)

I also try to remember that interactions – loving or otherwise are all a gift. I admit that thought is not my first reaction when times or people seem to be tough or unfair, but it is part of my life now more than ever, which I believe is the result of reflection, meditation and gratitude and many other Wishful Thinking ways.

The benefits of mediation do not only occur as we are taking the time to focus inward, they flow into our everyday lives. I am much slower to blame, more understanding of myself and others, and less likely to judge myself or others as harshly as I did years ago as my awareness and peace increase. I am also better at celebrating my successes rather than allowing myself to wallow in my faults – and there are many, focusing on them could take up most of my day! 🙂

My overall goal is to use the practices that bring me joy and peace and trust that the awareness and insight they offer will help me create the life I really want.

What practices make your life better? Are you happy with how the world is treating you and how your relationships are going?

If you are, make sure to celebrate your joy and growth. If not, no problem, there are so many ways to change what is in going on around you! Begin by believing things can change and then add meditation, practicing gratitude, or simply being kinder to yourself and others to your life. Read and use the hundreds of posts on Wishful Thinking Works and other blogs written to help you change your life for the better. There are more free resources available to you than ever before, take advantage of them.

You can do it.

Namaste.

Your life is your once in a lifetime opportunity; what you do with it is up to you.”

Patrice K. Robson

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