Note to self

Celebrate you this New Year’s Eve

new-years-eve-1004535_960_720As the New Year rolls around it is way too easy to get bogged down in what we didn’t accomplish or do this year and to start making long lists of what we need to do in the New Year.

I think a much better and more rewarding way to start the New Year is to remember how wonderful you are by creating your personal “Ta Da” list I created this pdf years ago for a Wishful Thinking Works post and I use it twice a year to remind myself of all the good things – big or small – that have happened or that I have accomplished.

Why not use New Year ‘s Eve to celebrate you and what you have done instead of worrying about what you didn’t do?

Even if 2015 was your toughest year yet, you survived, and that is worth celebrating.

champagne-584072_960_720If you are alone on New Year’s Eve, embrace it! Buy some bubbly, treat yourself to food you love, pop in a movie, read a good book or soak in a luxurious bath and savor being you. (Some of my best New Year’s Eves were spent alone – outdoors, reflecting on all the good things in my life. I sipped something wonderful, tasted something delicious and savored the moments.)

As the New Year dawns, don’t worry about what’s next, just enjoy what is. You made it this far in life and have so much more to look forward to.

Happy New Year!

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Don’t look back, unless it moves you forward.


Happy New Year! Welcome to 2013!

Now let’s fast forward to January 1, 2014! Picture yourself looking back at 2013, happy and excited about the changes you made. You see, it’s never too early to look ahead, and the best way to let your past move you forward, is to make changes in the present!

Just because you haven’t done something, doesn’t mean you can’t or you won’t. (No matter what anyone says; including those little nagging voices in your head.) Here’s the Wishful Thinking Works Real Deal Change Wheel to help you get real about change in 2013.

And, if your past, the world around you, or the changes you want seem overwhelming or look big and scary you can still find the courage to plow through them or find away around them. My guess is you have already accomplished and overcome many things in your life. (That’s why I know, you can make the changes you would like in 2013.)

Here’s some tips to make Wishful Thinking Work  for you in the New Year:

  1. If you have a long list of resolutions, prioritize them. Pick the one you want the most, the one that will move you forward fastest, the one that will make the others easier to accomplish down the road.  (Hint: It’s probably the resolution you have ignored or denied the longest. 2013 is the time to cross it off your list. Here’s the Wishful Thinking Works Change Circle to help you prioritize.)
  2. Then do something this week – anything – that moves you closer to your dreams. Be a tad braver, a bit kinder, and a smidgen more positive, too. Work smarter, play harder, love more, and complain less. Create a plan.
  3. Then repeat what works for you, and stop doing what doesn’t.

And, don’t forget to visit or “Follow” Wishful Thinking Works here and on Facebook in 2013, in fact, make it a priority! There’s absolutely no reason you have to face change alone. I learned a long time ago, help is just outside our comfort zone, but not out of our reach!

And, remember, don’t limit your future by reliving your past, use it to move you forward in the present.

Happy New Year

Wishful Thinking Ways #11


Would you like to feel more confident, courageous and calmer? If so, you are in the perfect place at the perfect time – Wishful Thinking Ways week #11!

Today we are creating your Change Circle. Click here for a customized Change Circle sheet you can use to decide exactly what you want to change in your life. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to select one, and one thing only to change.

By choosing one, and one thing only, you concentrate your efforts and dramatically increase the odds you will achieve your goal. And, by accomplishing whatever you set out to do – you will not only achieve your change goal, you will also gain confidence in yourself and your abilities, and build some courage along the way. And, if you allow yourself to celebrate and savor your success you can go to sleep and wake-up feeling calmer. It’s a win-win-win situation! The trifecta of change – confidence, courage and calm. (Ooh, that feels good . . .  I’ve been working on my personal change goal, and I can tell you it feels wonderful to see the changes taking place, but that’s another post.)

You can do it.

If you have been following Wishful Thinking Ways over the past 10 weeks, you are completely ready for this. In January, you set the stage; in February you spent time exploring and discovering your dreams, and in March you will begin making them happen. The past 10 weeks of Wishful Thinking Ways have been chockfull of ideas and activities to get you started and moving in the right direction. (If you are just joining us, no problem, click here or on the last link below.)

Wishful Thinking Works  – all you need to do is to slip into the driver’s seat and get behind the wheel of your life. You are in control! I know there are days it may not feel that way – we all have them – but deep down you are capable of creating change in your life. I am absolutely sure you have done it before, and just as sure you can do it again.

The free Wishful Thinking Ways “Change Circle” sheet will help you. Click here, then read and print it. No printer, no problem – read the sheet and make your own circles on a piece of paper. (Where there’s a will, there’s a way!)

No excuses, you can do it. Go for it! No matter where you are today, it is the perfect starting point for where you want to be tomorrow.

Click on the links below to review or start your Wishful Thinking Ways.

It is never too late to create positive change in your life.

Wishful Thinking Ways #10 – My Wishful Thinking Ways

Wishful Thinking Ways #9 – Your Story, Your Way

Wishful Thinking Ways #8 – Mind-Mapping & More

Wishful Thinking Ways #7 – Change Drawings

Wishful Thinking Ways #6 – Questions Hold the Key

Wishful Thinking Ways #5 – Exploring Label Fables

Wishful Thinking Ways #4 – Name that Feeling

Wishful Thinking Ways #3 – Physiological Tells

Wishful Thinking Ways #2 – Simple Steps 

Wishful Thinking Ways #1 – Start at the Very Beginning


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Instead of either/or, again

This is a repost from a year ago; it’s worked its way back into the line-up because of a question recently posed to me.

Do you have a hard time making decisions? When faced with two equally positive or negative options have you ever felt stuck?

Most of us at sometime in our lives have been paralyzed by the thought of having to choose between door one or door two. Here’s an idea that might help:

“Instead of either/or, add one more.”

Huh? I know it sounds odd, and is counterintuitive, but it works . . .

Instead of either/or, add one more.

The idea is not mine, but turning it into a cute little rhyme is. (And, as silly as the rhyme sounds, it’s more memorable, and I think it’s a line worth remembering.)

Instead of either/or, add one more.

Picture this, you’ve inherited a huge sum of money, never have to work again, and have been house hunting for months. You finally found two homes you love, and although they are very different each offers you a lifestyle you’ve dreamed about. You can’t decide whether to go with the brownstone in Manhattan or the rambling ranch on a mountain in Colorado and rich as you are, you can’t afford both.

Or, you have two great job options, life coach in Florida or actress in Hollywood – naw, that one is way too easy, I’d choose being a life coach, anywhere! But, I digress.

A while back, I read brothers Chip and Dan Heath’s book “Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die”, and their comments about the paradoxes of how we make decisions led me to come up with my little ditty:

Instead of either/or, add one more.

The decision-making research they cited reveals the value of adding one more choice to an either/or mix. Adding “one more”, helps us prioritize, which makes it easier for us to recognize what we truly prefer. We tend to think that by making things black or white, or narrowing down our choices to just two – this or that, we are making things easier on ourselves, but the opposite may be true. It appears that it’s easier for us to choose when we look at and compare three options rather than two.

Expanding on my earlier example . . . brownstone in Manhattan, rambling ranch in Colorado, or beach house in Florida? Did the picture get any clearer for you? It did for me.

  • Manhattan/Colorado/Florida
  • City life/country life/beach bum

Comparing three options rather than two, changes the way we think, and may lead us to faster and less regrettable decisions. (It’s easy to spend our lives regretting either/or decisions; I think comparing three options reduces the drama, which may in turn reduce lingering regrets.)

So, what would you choose, brownstone, ranch, beach house? There are no wrong answers – don’t over think it – pick the one that appeals most to you and go from there.

Try applying the rhyme this week. It works well on big or little stuff.

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Sunny times


I met with seven amazing women this weekend for a Wishful Thinking Works gathering in a new French/Italian Bistro within walking distance of my home.

Meeting with these interesting women was a fantastic way to spend my birthday morning. They inspired me with their interests, their lives and their quest for more.

We were enjoying our coffee and conversation indoors, but in so many ways our gathering reminded me of the 2003 movie based on Frances Mayes‘ book Under the Tuscan Sun. We were discussing our lives, planning ahead and we were surrounded by delicious and delicate food made with attention to detail and a true love of cooking. It felt good, and a bit like a special sun was shining on us. 

On Sunday I watched Under the Tuscan Sun and thought the last few lines truly fit our time together Saturday morning. 

“They say they built the train tracks over the Alps before there was a train that could make the trip. They built it anyway. They knew one day the train would come.”

That is what creating the life you want is like, you just keep laying new tracks no matter how high the mountains. You find ways to maintain your belief that the train will come. You gather, you talk, you explore, you listen and you learn. 

Perhaps, like Diane Lane in the movie, at times you rail against the world for the injustices you’ve faced or the sadness you’ve endured, but you still keep moving forward and predicting better. You keep laying the tracks for the rest of your life, the one you really want. The life that will carry you over the mountains, because as Mayes notes,      

“Unthinkably good things can happen, even late in the game.”

And, as I know, unthinkably good things can happen, anytime!

Hope your week is off to an amazing start.

Have I mentioned that I love life coaching?


I do. (A-not-so veiled reference to today’s royal wedding.)

I absolutely love being a life coach, and honestly think everyone can benefit from working with a great life coach. 

That’s a pretty bold statement, and could be seen as exceptionally self-serving because I am a heck of a great coach, but here’s the thing – many years before I became a really great coach, I hired a really great coach, and it changed my life – for the better, in sickness and in health until death do I part! (I didn’t marry my coach, but wanted to work in another royal wedding reference – and my coaching experience really has helped me through thick and thin, in sickness . . . )

I love that I am now able to use my coaching experiences, subsequent life coach training, years of research and review of positive psychology and Appreciative Inquiry studies and techniques, and my educational and professional background to successfully life coach others. 

I also love that Wishful Thinking Works life coaching gets great reviews from coaching clients, but most of all, I love helping clients make a  positive difference in their lives. 

To read more about what Wishful Thinking Works life coaching can do for you, and some Wishful Thinking Works  reviews, click here and here. Or, give me a call at 813-719-0769 or email me at

In the meantime, have a perfectly royal day!

WTW Dandelion

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