Oprah and Deepak Chopra are currently offering a free meditation series and each day they include questions for reflection. The series is about getting “unstuck”, and whether or not you are participating in the meditations, I think the Day 3 questions offer a positive solution.
Reflect on a challenge in life that makes you feel stuck. Choose something familiar that comes up every day. . .
See in your mind’s eye someone else in the same situation who is handling it well, without being stuck. Journal about how this person responds differently from you. For example, “She stays calm,” “Her buttons aren’t pushed,” “She’s not resentful,” or “She doesn’t blame someone else.”
Now, picture yourself using one of the responses you noticed – instead of picking up that bag of chips, go for a walk, make a phone call, stretch, clean a drawer or work on a project. Instead of getting angry, walk away or breathe deeply. Your options are truly endless, and just imagining yourself doing something different is a huge first step.
Get creative, add a bit of humor. The key is – instead of beating yourself up for staying stuck – imagine yourself gliding effortlessly through the situations that challenge you and how wonderful that will feel. Then savor those feelings to create a sense of accomplishment, to build your confidence and to give yourself a new view of how your life can be.
The more time you spend noticing how others respond, creating new options for yourself and trying out those ideas, the less sticky your life will be! Guaranteed!!
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